Saturday, August 8, 2009

To be continued...

We are heading back home next week and will be making a second trip to adopt our little one. We ran into some bad luck. The Dept. feels badly about what happened. They have assured us that they will begin matching us with a child meeting our requirements ASAP once they return back from vacation in Sept. We considered remaining here, but since it could take a few months, we felt it would be best for everyone to be back home. We are very grateful to the officials for their continuing efforts in rectifying the situation. It's def. bittersweet. We have the assurance that we will indeed be matched very soon...but we had hoped to bring our child home with us on this trip. One never knows why things happen...but we strongly believe that everything happens in its own time. Our little one just wasn't ready yet. We feel that it's better for our family to be patient rather than adopting a child whom we weren't in a position to parent.

We certainly have grown from this experience. We stayed true to ourselves and it has made us stronger. We're at peace and can't wait to come back to Petro. We'll miss our new friends and have come to know and love the city.

We are very grateful to everyone for your support. We couldn't have gotten through these last few weeks without your words of encouragement and prayers. Please also think of a baby girl who is in hospital here. We visited with her and she stole our hearts. She has to remain in hospital and may need quite a bit of medical treatments and surgeries. She's a fighter and an inspiration!

We hope to be travelling either next Tuesday or Thursday to Astana and then making our home way through Frankfurt.

We'll keep in touch with our new friends!!! and for those at home... see you soon. I guess you could just say we needed to hit the "pause button" stay tuned... To be continued!

XXO Sven, Jocelyne and Yannik


leblanmt said...

Bon retour à vous trois! J'ai bien hâte de vous parler.

Julian and Sara said...

A most unfortunate situation, but at least your spirits seem to remain high - which is an absolute prerequisite throughout this process in order to remain sane.

Your "turn" to meet your child will come soon enough.

Our thoughts, commiserations on this trip and best wishes for the future to all of you.

Best of luck!

Stacey and Dave said...

So sorry to hear you had such a difficult decision to make. We were faced with the same situation, but chose to stay and wait. It was definitely one of the most difficult times of our lives.
It appears as though you are at peace with your decision, and that is the most important thing of all.
Don't give up - this bump in the road will one day be a distant memory, and soon you will be back in Kaz, bringing home the child who was meant to be yours.
Best of luck!

Kim Moorhead said...

I am truly sorry to hear this news, but I agree with you, you will bring home the child that is meant to be yours. I really believe it's destiny who we end up and as they say " good things will come to those who wait" Hope you have a safe journey home!

Jo said...

L'adoption au Kaz n'est pas un processus facile. Vous avez fait ce que vous pouvez et vous demeurez toujours une famille. Je suis contente qu'ils continueront à faire ce qu'ils peuvent pour vous et je connais des personnes qui sont revenus de leur deuxième voyage avec un enfant. Prenez ce temps à vous remettre. J'ai déjà passé par ce deuil aussi depuis quelques mois ce n'est pas facile mais sachez qu'il y a d'autres personnes et que vous ne sentiez pas seuls. Bon courage!

Baby Kaz Moore said...

I send you my best wishes as you overcome this hurdle in meeting your little one. Safe travels, Susan

Becki Stone said...

I'm so sorry this has happened to you- you have a very positive outlook- keep it! It is so easy to get down in the adoption process (something I know about)! We too are having issues, and a delay, but I have to have faith that when our son is ready, we'll go. You are in my thoughts, and have a safe trip home!

Jennifer M said...

Wow. You guys are truly inspiring in that you didn't let this bring you down, but instead it made you stronger. I am so sorry to hear the news though. I know this must be incredibly disappointing. I think you are very wise for standing true to yourselves and know well your expectations and limitations.

My best to you, and I look forward to the day when you do meet YOUR child.

On the positive side, you get to look forward to a Tim's in a week. :-) Nowhere close to comparable of course, but just trying to find the silver lining.

Lori said...

You are in our thoughts and prayers as you come home. You have such a wonderful outlook. I know that will help you as you wait to meet your child at the right moment. We are home with our forever child after 5 months and 3 trips to Kaz. with the 1st very similar to yours. It is so worth the wait although the wait is difficult.

Take good care of yourselves!

Chantal said...

Jocelyne, Sven et Yanick,

Je suis désolée d'apprendre que vous devez revenir les mains vide, mais pour le moment, c'est la meilleure décision, j'en suis sur.

Je suis de tout coeur avec vous.


Michele said...

Dear Sven, Jocelyne and Yannik,
Hoping you have a safe journey home and that you are soon back in Petro bonding with 'your' child.

Kristan and Mark said...

Hi, I am just finding your blog late, so I am trying to catch up.

I wanted to say how sorry I am that things did not work out for you this trip incountry, but I admire your very positive outlook.

We were in the Russia program and traveled blind, only to have to turn down children that we unquetionably believed were not a good fit for our family therefore being unable to parent them the way they needed. It was heartwrenching.

While waiting to return to Russia to a different region, we ran in to snags, changed countries and agencies (not recommending this, these were very different circumstances). Anyway, like you remained positive and strong throughout our disappointment and heartbreak, but eventually found our daughter and have been home for over two years now.

Be strong, stay focused and you too will find the child that's meant to be yours. I will continue to follow just to see this happen for your family.

Best of luck,
Kristan (mom to Kaz cutie Sadie).

Maryse said...

Jocelyne, Sven et Yannik,

Je suis attristée de vos nouvelles. Prenez courage des mots encourageants des autres qui ont passé par là.

Joce, j'ai hâte de te revoir et d'aller prendre une bonne crème glacée avec toi et Chantal.

Grosse hug!

Diane said...

My heart aches for you all, it seems your child is just not ready for you yet. May the time pass quickly and your spirits remain positive and high. Adopting internationally is not for the faint of heart, you are strong, and your child will be there when he/she is ready for you.

You are in inspiration on how to stay positive.

Thinking of you,

qmiller said...

So sorry to read of your delay in meeting your new child. Best wishes for a safe journey home and may you hear news quickly of your return date to KAZ.

Sandi said...

I am so happy you are not "giving in" to a child that was presented to you. Standing your ground will enable you to meet "your child". I too returned home in 2008 from Kostanain without a child, due to some extreme circumstances I did have to change agencies and in essence start over, however it did bring me to my daughter. We have now been home for 2 months and all the waiting and heartache is truly a distant memory.

I admire you for being positive and the ability to return when the time is right.

Hugs to you. Safe travels,